I was married at a young age to an older man; a man who over time began to emotionally abuse me. His derogatory comments were couched in “helpful” statements, but the messages added up to the fact that I wasn’t good enough.
I accepted this behavior; I did not set boundaries. I did not love myself enough to expect better behavior. I did not see my responsibility in our interactions. I cast him as the bad guy, never thinking that I may have created the situation through my perceptions. I stayed in the marriage for over 30 years.
One day I was pushed outside of my comfort zone. The Tubbs fire of 2017 destroyed my community and my home. When I was stripped of everything except my relationship, I had to face the fact that I was not being served in the relationship. I left the marriage and began a path of self-healing.
I started writing my story, with the intent of helping others to achieve self-acceptance, forgiveness and healing. In one year I was published in three self help books. This awakened the creativity in me and has resulted in my current project – a trilogy of children’s books.
I was guided by my soul to pick up and move from California to England. I crossed the ocean with a suitcase and set up my new home in a lovely community where I did not know anyone. I am working to build my life in England.